Finding the still point of sanity that rests in the background behind the frantic insanity of the outer world and, more importantly, that rests even behind the chaotic and perhaps constant thoughts of your inner world. where you recharge your batteries and re-connect to your own sense of OK-ness. Your relationship will improve immensely when you focus on the inner you and not what he’s doing or not doing.What does this have to do with relationships though? It doesn’t happen in the outside world and it doesn’t happen in your relationship or through your partner. And, from that place of renewed inner clarity, they come back together with you and that improved inner state reflects itself outward in how they relate to you. Relationships aren’t something to extract happiness from. Relationships work best when viewed as a place to bring happiness into, so as to help your partner come into alignment with that inner state as well (and vice versa). We all need space, although men relate to space and silence in a way that is different in character to the way women seem to relate to having space…So if that’s happening, you’re probably looking at a guy who isn’t all that into you… well, you could be saving yourself a ton of time and heartache. so if you think that you have a good relationship with the guy you’re with but you believe he’s starting to lose interest, then I highly recommend you take the following quiz. Good relationships tend to come about when you’re swimming with the current, not against it. if a guy has stopped texting you all of a sudden, and it’s a guy you’ve been seeing for longer than, let’s say, 2 weeks…at which point I would recommend you would cut things now and meet someone new. Which is foolish on two fronts: first it implies that the time to be impressive is only at the beginning and second it implies that another person should select you because you impressed them (and that you should select them because you found them impressive). I’m not saying that there aren’t those rare cases where some disinterested guy inexplicably changes his tune and comes around… Sooner or later, this kind of thing is going to happen and now is as good a time as any to become comfortable with the idea of giving a guy space.Over the course of the last decade and a half, texting has increasingly become a constant part of waking life.For most people these days, it’s tough to imagine waiting for something or sitting idle without checking your texts, social media, etc.So as a general rule in relationships, try to keep texting to a minimum and, when you do need to text, your texts will have much more impact.
Now there might be those moments where you catch a guy in a chatty mood, but those are best viewed as the the men should text a lot or that men want to text a lot, you’ll save yourself a lot of grief wanting something that, for the most part, goes against a man’s nature.I mean, could you imagine being bored in today’s world? Plain and simple: It is within moments of space where we are most able to connect with ourselves and the life within us.The most sane thing you can do for yourself is to start bringing space into your life as much as possible. Our outer world of smartphones and social media is a constant stream of unending noise and a frantic freight train of activity to react to.There’s this expectation nowadays that we’re almost meant to be constantly available and in contact with others…that we should be on our phones at every waking moment, ready to respond to any message sent to us. There used to be moments of space mixed into our days, where we would just have to wait for things.
I left him alone because I didn’t want to come across as annoying or something.