Of course you should not make your decisions based on what others would think or feel.
But it is important to honestly assess your affair and think about whether this relationship could stand this kind of stress.
Meeting someone you respect, are attracted to, who genuinely cares about you, shares your values and at least a few interests, and with whom you can work through conflicts can be a catalyst for not only a great and lasting new relationship with a new person, but with yourself as well.
For example, if, prior to entering your primary relationship, you had the unconscious belief that you were unlovable, or didn’t deserve to be loved, you may have ended up with someone who couldn’t really give you love.
That is because almost all relationships follow a predictable course of developmental stages, all at some point going through a period of disillusionment.
You may stuff these feelings in order to maintain the new relationship, only to discover down the line that you have many unresolved feelings about your partner that are interfering in your new relationship.
Feeling torn between two lovers can be an agonizing experience.
Besides the guilt, and fear of discovery, you also know that sooner or later you will have to lose someone you love or have loved.
You can’t help but understand that their solution to a difficult interpersonal situation was betrayal.
In the initial blissful stage, it might be unimaginable that they could do the same thing to you, or that you could do the same thing to them, but once you hit the stresses of real everyday life, things can feel different and much less secure.